Today we catch up with Tawanda and Ruvimbo who share their bold love with us.
a) What have you learnt in being in a relationship/ friendship with this person
T: That communication is important
Rue: That there are so many different faces of love – so many different ways of
What one thing makes this work for you?
We completely agree that it’s our faith in God that makes this work as well as it does –
nothing else. From there everything else overflows: the love, trust, and learning to
compromise – it’s all rooted in the values that our faith keeps teaching us.
b) Funniest memory with the person
T: This is a tough one. There are so many funny moments between us it’s hard to think of
one. There are regular moments where we make each other laugh – she snorts, drools,
cries, there’s snot even, but I can’t think of a specific memory. We just laugh a lot of the
Rue: The snot thing’s not true by the way. Lol. But like him I can only picture me crying with laughter in different places at the most random of times. There’s lots of moments and I honestly can’t even think of why but we can really take some things to town and back-
there’s just so many things we can laugh about. I make fun of him a lot too though, he’s
currently plotting his comeback.
c) What is your favourite thing about this person
T: If I’m to pick one (and there are many) – I’d say it’s the way she understands who I am, it makes it easier to love her, and for her to love me for me.
Rue: There’s a lot – I’m going to have trouble narrowing this down. He’s an easy person to
like: even before romance, I just found him to be personable, a real people person – which
is tough for me sometimes because I’m definitely more recluse than he is. But it’s a good
challenge and has taught me to be a little more open (dare I say social?) so that’s good. Oh
and another favourite is that he always surprises me. That’s pretty amazing.
[We also agreed that we absolutely love each other’s openness to trying new things; so our
relationship is filled with the most amazing adventures together.]
e) What is your pet peeve?
Rue: He definitely knows this one before I even say it: having to wait for him – I really
believe he works on a different clock to the rest of the world.
T: This is not something bad, as in I hate it about you. But I don’t like that sometimes she
doesn’t have enough confidence in herself, that she doesn’t believe in herself enough and
so tends to short-change herself.
In addition to sharing their remarkable story, Ruvimbo shared some poetry inspired by their love:
An ode to black love
Good – oh so good –
It shifts the world. Magnificently. Tenderly. Without apology.
Black love has the power to turn you around, from meekness
From wars you never knew you were fighting
From histories you never realised you were running from
To victories that leave you wondering what weakness –
Ever kept you from seeking your worth.
Black love is the power of vulnerability
Of seeking truths beyond what the world dictates
Of breaking chains that have bound it in melancholic songs of unworthiness.
Black love salutes the sturdy man – who is forever in his prime and ready to assert his place
While contributing to the upliftment of his fellows.
Black love exalts the steadfast woman – who is not enslaved to borders but reaches
unknown spaces to makes sure her tribe flourishes beyond the bellows:
Of sin, loss, #metoos, inequity and all that dethrones.
Black love is letting go
Black love is becoming
Black love is an assertion of TRUTH
And an uncompromising battle for oneness within self, its mate, and the universe that owes
Black love is soft – but wise – and it’s whole.
Black love is empowered. It’s empowering.
Black love is magical.
Black love is light. And we owe it its full place in this world where darkness continually tries
to tell us it doesn’t exist.
Black love is here. It’s present. It’s rooted. Black love is…
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